Being a birth support partner is a profound and pivotal role, offering strength and reassurance during one of life’s most transformative moments. Whether you are a partner, friend, or family member, your presence can significantly impact the birthing experience. Here are some essential tips to help you be the best support partner possible.
Be Present and Attentive
Be fully present and focused on the birthing person during labour. Put away your phone and other distractions, and give them your undivided attention.
Your presence alone can be a tremendous source of comfort. Listen with your full attention – if they’re telling you something it’ll be important!
Practicing comfort strategies can ensure you’re both comfortable going into labour. It’s beneficial to research and practise various techniques beforehand, so you’re prepared to assist effectively.
Educate Yourself
Understanding the birth process can help alleviate your own anxieties and enable you to provide informed support. Attend childbirth classes, read books, and consult reliable online resources. Familiarise yourself with terms and procedures you might encounter. This knowledge will not only boost your confidence but also make you a more effective advocate for the birthing person’s wishes.
Communicate and Plan
Have open discussions with the birthing person about their birth plan, preferences, and any specific needs or fears they may have. Knowing their desires regarding pain management, interventions, and comfort measures allows you to support their preferences and make informed decisions.
Familiarise yourself with the birth plan and ask questions if you need clarification.
Manage the Environment
Create a calming environment that aligns with the birthing person’s preferences. This might involve dimming lights, playing soothing music, or ensuring a quiet atmosphere. You might also need to be the liaison between medical staff and the birthing person, helping to ensure their comfort and dignity are maintained. If a healthcare professional informs you of an emergency and you need to make a decision, ask how long you have to decide. If something is truly urgent, there will likely be obvious indicators.
Self-Care
Supporting someone through birth can be emotionally and physically draining. Take care of yourself (as well as her) by eating, hydrating, and resting when possible. You’ll be more effective and supportive if you are also well taken care of.
Post-Birth Support
Your role doesn’t end with the birth. Providing continued support during the postnatal period is crucial. Help with household tasks, offer emotional support, and encourage rest and recovery.
